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Have you ever considered that we haven't learned how to meet our own needs? 

And because we don't know how to meet our own needs, we ask for the world to do it…

And because we ask for the world to meet our needs, we think that our happiness, our joy, our peace, our bliss, all of it lives outside of ourselves.

We have fallen into the illusion that it is out there where we can find the solution to whatever is happening within ourselves, that it is out there where we will find the answer to our questions.

As children, we don't know how to meet our needs and many of us grew up with parents who were in their own mitote as don Miguel Ruiz calls it in his book 'The Four Agreements', they lived in their own illusion, not knowing how to care for their own needs.

We didn't always receive what we needed and grew up knowing how to ignore our needs, but with a yearning of getting that which is missing even when we can't name what that is.

And so we go on this journey of seeking outside of ourselves.

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I was talking to my spiritual practitioner and she said to me…

“People talk about forgiveness a lot, but what they don't know is that when the adult within us learns how to meet its own needs, especially the needs of that child stuck in time wanting their parents to meet their needs, that is going to be the moment when we will be able to forgive.”

When our needs are taken care of, then we can move into forgiveness with more ease.

And the reason why I’m telling you all of this is because I have been working on it!

I have been a diligent student of this path, the path of remembering who I am, for a while now. And I have gathered lots of tools from many great teachers throughout the years, but I keep coming back to this one tool:

Meeting my own needs.

I feel that we all suffer from great disappointment and frustration from everything that is happening in the world, from the difficult circumstances in our lives, and so we become resentful.

We are all having this experience of not feeling home, not feeling that sense of fulfillment, bliss, and peace. 🤍

And I have found, time and time again, that when I'm feeling this way if I ask myself:

Paola, what is it that you need?

And I sit with myself until I discover what it is that I need and I do my best to give it to myself, without judgment, something magical happens. 

I start softening, I start seeing with different eyes. The situation may not change immediately, but I experience a shift in perception.

And this brings to light the miracles behind the circumstances. 

So my invitation for you today is to start paying more attention to your emotions and when feeling uneasy, ask yourself...

What do I need right now?

Take a few minutes and sit with your emotions, scan your body, talk to yourself. 

This may translate into doing something on your own like taking time apart or calling a friend to ask for help. Whatever it is, do your best to take care of it.

Remember, you cannot pour from an empty cup, attending to your needs will keep your cup fuller.

With love,

Paola ❤️