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You know there are beliefs that you’ve been holding onto that don’t serve you any more, that don’t align with who you truly are, and you’re ready to let them go.

But the question is… How?

There is actually a practical way to transform any belief, no matter how long you’ve been holding on to it.

A process that takes a different approach, through a set of questions, without trying to force a new belief to replace an old one.

Let me break it down for you. 🧩🧩🧩

1️⃣ What is the belief I’m trying to change?

“I don’t have enough time to take care of myself”

Identify the core belief.

2️⃣ What is the positive emotion that holds this belief?

“Not having time is the perfect excuse not stop and be with myself”

Every belief in your subconscious mind is there because there is a positive emotion holding it. In psychology, this is called ‘The secondary gain’. In this example the secondary gain is avoiding emotional discomfort.

3️⃣ What evidence do you have that this is true?

“I‘m always over-committed”

Your brain is always scanning for evidence to confirm its beliefs. If as a child you were told not to cry or not to be weak, most likely you learned to numb your emotions with a certain behavior or activity, so you avoid alone time.

4️⃣ What would you prefer believing in?

“I have an abundance of time to take care of myself” or “I enjoy my alone time”

Frame it as a positive affirmation. But your brain won’t believe this at first, so you have to give your brain evidence.

5️⃣ What proof do you have that indicates this new belief is true?

“I always find time for my priorities” or “My home is always clean and tidy”

“My friends appreciate I always have time for them”

Collect evidence that refutes the main belief. 

“Maybe it’s not so true that I don’t have time enough for myself”

6️⃣ Collect new evidence and use small intentions

Since your brain is not ready to process your new belief, use small intentions that you already believe that point you toward what you truly want to believe. 

“I’m always available for the people I love”

“I’m a caring and loving person”

“I’m more productive at work when I feel revitalized”

And command your brain to collect evidence from your life, and from others, that proves your new belief. 

-Who do you admire for always having time for self-care? 

-What self-care routine has made you feel good in the past?

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Every change begins by taking the first step, you just have to be willing to take it.

🌟 When you change your ways, when you expand, when you evolve, you become evidence to other people that it is possible to rise above any limiting belief. 

You act in service of the world, you inspire, you open up space for others to do the same... “If she/he can, maybe I can too”

Like Marianne Williamson says:

“As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same”

So let your light shine bright! ✨

With love,

Paola